It's great that your man has a best friend with whom he can share all these boy stories, but this friend is becoming your love rival, how do you deal this “significant other”? By Wairimu Gikenye Women are aware that men also have a best friend, the man in his life who he simply cannot let go of – his most trusted ally and confidant. A more appropriate term used in Kenyan colloquialism would be “her boy”. It's a unique phenomenon that is a "bromance": a purely platonic relationship between two heterosexual men bonding over shared interests and life experiences. A woman expressing her feelings was and still is the norm, but until recently this connection between men was somewhat taboo. Previously, men were raised to hide their feelings and affections from those they love, but Ruth Njihia, a registered psychologist and counselor at Oasis Africa, encourages these types of relationships and believes that they "show that men improve their social skills”. a bromance may be healthy for him, but for you, "his boy" is nothing more than an annoying nuisance, a third wheel whose companionship seems to put a damper on all your romantic efforts. Barbara, 25, tolerated a lot in her relationship with her former boyfriend, but when her significant other's friend invited her brother and a friend on a special date, she was at a loss for words. “He joined us at our Valentine’s Day dinner. Our first Valentine's Day together! It's even worse. He went ahead and invited his little brother and his friend. As if that wasn't enough for Barbara: “One time he stayed at his house for a whole week and they spent the whole day watching movies and going out clubbing in the evening. He was there at every meal. It was horrible; I just could never cuddle... middle of paper... our partner sees and slowly learns that things aren't right. Njihia said. Social progressions like healthy bromances are a good thing, but it's about creating balance in your life and relationships. Tips for Surviving a Bromance Instead of stewing at home while your man is bromancing, spend time with your best friend and a group of girlfriends. “If you can’t beat them, join them.” Your partner may be trying to be considerate by thinking that you have nothing in common with the boys, but every once in a while, join in. This demonstrates your support for his relationships. Don't try to be one of the guys. He loved you for who you are, that includes being a woman, you don't see him dating any of his male friends. Don't expect the bromance to ever end. The men in a bromance have known each other for a long time, so they almost consider each other family..