January 1 I packed my 2 year old daughter and most of our belongings into a new house. I never would have imagined that in about two and a half years I would have divorced the person I had been so in love with just a few years earlier. Someone I had built a home with, someone I had spent the last 7 years of my life with, had a child and was raising a stepson like my own. It was one of the most difficult times of my life, but I felt a sense of relief, hope and optimism. The relationship was never healthy, but I was too immature to see it. I had also been raised to believe that whatever the problem, you stayed and tried to solve it. After putting a child in this situation and growing up a bit myself, all the events leading up to my separation, I can without a doubt say that divorce would not cause more problems than it would solve. Through the no-fault divorce process, a lot of additional arguments were avoided and just because it was an available option did not mean I chose to divorce. My life and that of my daughter have greatly improved and we are both blessed with happy, healthy lives. My daughter does well in school and is a well-behaved and happy child. That being said, reforms should not be made to return to “fault” divorce and it is not true that divorce only negatively impacts and shapes the children involved. Two famous and widely known psychologists, Constance Ahrons, PhD, and Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D. Judith Wallerstein conducted a 25-year study on the effects of divorce on the children involved. She was a lecturer at the Social Worker School of Social Welfare at the University of California, Berkeley from 1966 to...... middle of article......best alternatives possible at the end of the marriage. Work cited Ahrons, Constance doctorate The good divorce. NY: Harper Perennial: Harper Collins Publishers, 1994. Print. Ahrons, Constance. We are still a family. [Sl]: HarperCollins, 2009. Print.Clark, Charles S. “Marriage and Divorce.” CQ Researcher May 10, 1996: 409-32. QC Researcher. Internet. November 20, 2013. Jost Kenneth and Robinson, Marilyn. “Children and Divorce.” CQ Researcher June 7, 1991: 349-68. QC Researcher. Internet. November 16, 2013. Masci, David. “Children and Divorce.” CQ Researcher January 19, 2001: 25-40. QC Researcher. Internet. November 15, 2013Masci, David. “The Future of Marriage.” CQ Researcher May 7, 2004: 397-420. QC Researcher. Internet. November 16, 2013. Wardle, Lynn D. “No-Fault Divorce and the Divorce Conundrum.” Brigham Young University Law Review 1991.1 (1991): 79. Academic Search Premier. Internet. November 25. 2013.