When you think about losing a parent, the first thing you would do is erase that thought from your mind entirely. Losing a parent is something we don't try to think about until the scary event happens. Death cannot be avoided or reversed. After the horrific death of her mother and the damaging loss of her middle family and husband, Cheryl Strayed seems to have lost everything she cherished most, including herself. During these traumatic events, Cheryl desperately searches for a remedy that can heal her from the pain she endured. In her book Wild, she explains this healing as “not pretty, but clean” and “not good, but without regret” (Strayed 36). She said she was trying to heal by getting the evil out of her system so she could become good again (Strayed 36). Cheryl finds many ways to live with the reality of her transgressions without feeling ashamed, allowing these mistakes to strengthen her instead of weakening her by becoming a character flaw. There's no denying that Cheryl definitely had a hard time coping with her mother's death. Based on the expressive descriptions that Cheryl gave of their relationship, the reader can feel the painful emotions that Cheryl displayed following her mother's death. Adjusting to the grief that is expressed when you lose a loved one can be more than a challenge. As Cheryl faces these challenges, she continues to cry in ways that shock her friends, her husband, and even herself. Losing her mother was like losing a large part of herself and the different ways she coped can be seen as detrimental to her character. One of these drawbacks includes Cheryl engaging in sexual activities with random men and infrequent sessions to strengthen and guide her through the painful loss of her mother and her life by living each day as if it were was the case. were his last. Works Cited Manning, Doug. “Sexuality and grief.” The community care home. Np, November 6, 2013. Web. March 03, 2014.Strayed, Cheryl. "The Sun Magazine | The love of my life." Sun magazine | The love of my life. Np, and Web. March 03, 2014.Strayed, Cheryl. Wild: From lost and found items on the Pacific Crest Trail. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2012. Print.Yvonne. “How can we condone such behavior because she lost her mother? This is inexcusable and an escape from the real problems this woman must have. Do you really think cheating on your spouse is a good way to promote healthy healing? I would not call this any form of healthy healing! » November 27, 2011, 7:29 a.m. Comment.