She comments on my clothes, my hair and says I look like a “ghost girl”. Even when we are sick, we discuss whether to take medicine prescribed by a doctor or the traditional herbs and remedies she grew up with, like Brave Orchid did with her sister's medicine. My mother is adamant about her beliefs and I think it's unfair of her to be so closed-minded and stuck in her traditional ways because she always told me that she immigrated to America for a better life and a new state. If she had to uproot her entire life to start a new one in a foreign country, how could she hope to survive without learning to compromise and accept American culture? My feelings parallel Kingston's in that she felt frustrated by her mother's tenacity to only accept Chinese culture. I think sometimes my mother's stubbornness pushes me more towards Western culture. In fact, from time to time I find myself using the phrase "you Chinese" when asking my mother about my culture, and she always scolds me and asks "What?" You are not