However, Millie found this difficult and did not accept that her husband was a woman as it would not only change the way she sees Joss, but also the way she is visualized. socially because she was lied to and manipulated into believing he is a biological male. From this revelation, Millie was visibly upset and confused: “I remember feeling stupid and then angry. I remember the terrible shock of it all; however, even after he told me, I still couldn’t believe it” (p. 35). This would be a shock to anyone because you would feel like your life has been a lie and it changes your entire concept of your position in society. The harsh reality for her is that, as Davies states, "if Millie accepts that Joss was not a man – that his masculinity was nothing more than a costume – then she changes her definition of herself , going from wife to lesbian. » Additionally, Millie wants to stay true to the relationship she was in and defends her relationship. Arguably she does this in order to capture any remaining dignity she has towards her relationship, and also because Millie still respects Joss anyway. Millie also seems afraid to admit the truth because she doesn't want to appear abnormal.