Actions speak louder than words. “I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer , in sickness and in health, till death do us part” are vows that don’t seem to hold true in many marriages. In the United States, the divorce rate is 50%. The decision to divorce creates many negative effects on children, friends and family. Today, society has made divorce an open topic, allowing viewers to think that giving up and not going through with it is a good thing to do. The saddest thing is that this generation will have virtually no couples declaring a marriage of more than 25 years. What is divorce? Divorce is a process by which a marriage ends. The relationship between the couple is broken and so is the family that was created, what is included in the separation are friends, in-laws and children. Sometimes a divorce can turn out very badly because of the division of property shared during the marriage. A lot of anger and bitterness can arise when a divorce is created. We can blame the media for showing society that a marriage is all about the big, positive things, while the hard, negative times are often never shown. Marriage is a portrait, as a woman will meet the most wonderful loving male who is her prince charming, that is to get married and live happily ever after. Movies and TV shows brainwash us into how a marriage is supposed to work. A marriage is not easy. Marriage requires a lot of work and patience for a marriage to last a lifetime. The saying “it’s not who you found, but learning to love the one who found you.” Humans must struggle to see how strong we are as individuals to... middle of paper ...... lives thinking it's okay to be alone. A foundation is established for a child who can simply get up and walk away rather than confront and resolve the problem. A child will not be systematically disciplined due to tensions between parents. It is definitely difficult for a child to have a certain consistency in his life. Divorce is something that needs to be thought through carefully. The consequences are more serious than marriage. People will be hurt, lives will be affected and property will be divided. Half the time, many people regret their decision and realize that the first marriage was the best of the four or five they had. We all need help and we can't do things alone. As a team, we are stronger than an individual. Selfishness is an act that will not allow you to grow as an individual. To succeed, we must turn the M in me into a W for us.