A restraining order is a court document that restricts or eliminates contact between two people. Restraining orders are typically associated with victims of domestic violence, but can be obtained by victims of any form of harassment. Essentially, a judge decides how far the defendant should stay away to keep you safe. In extreme cases, a judge will not order any form of contact, including telephone, letters or even emails. Violation of a restraining order is equivalent to violation of any other court order and will result in the arrest of the defendants. However, the person filing a restraining order must also comply with the restraining order, or it may be canceled. Types of Restraining Orders There are two types of restraining orders: an emergency protection order and a restraining order. An emergency protection order is filed by law enforcement officers and protects you for five days while you establish a more permanent order. The police officer may ask the violent party to leave the home and have absolutely no contact with you during the confinement period. A copy of this order is automatically distributed to the local sheriff and police stations. If the attacker contacts you, he will be automatically arrested. A restraining order is a list of stipulations signed by a judge. If the violent party is not in jail, you will both meet with a court mediator before signing the restraining order. At this meeting you will decide on custody, property and contact matters. In cases of domestic violence, the restrained person will not be allowed within 500 feet of you, your home, and your workplace. If there are children involved, supervised visits are strongly recommended. In this case, the restraining order will allow a loved one, ...... middle of paper ...... to be arrested. The weeks before and after your departure are the most dangerous periods for a victim of domestic violence. Remember that it takes time for the police to arrive. Although restraining orders are essential, they are not weapons. Be sure to lock all your doors and windows and purchase bear spray. It may be helpful to take a self-defense course designed for people in your situation.SupportDevelop a support system to help enforce the restraining order. Ask your neighbors to help keep an eye out for the attacker. Stay with friends until your life stabilizes if you can. Most importantly, seek therapy. A therapist may be the pastor of your church, a social worker, or a marriage and family counselor. Find a domestic violence support group in your area. It's comforting to know that you are not alone and that others have overcome domestic violence..