Ramsay experiences effects on the way he reads his wife. Instead of looking for the good and looking for ways to sympathize with his wife, Mr. Ramsay constantly belittles her. After their dinner, while Mrs. Ramsay is between reading her book and sleeping, Mr. Ramsay actively searches for reasons why she is inferior and has less value as a person. He smiled at her, “inquiringly, as if he were gently ridiculing her for sleeping in broad daylight, but at the same time he thought: Keep reading. You don't look sad, he thought. And he wondered if she understood what she read and exaggerated her ignorance in relation to its simplicity, because he liked to think that she was not intelligent, that she had not learned to read at all. Probably not, he thought (Woolf 121). This really shows how Mr. Ramsay's readings of others are skewed due to his own crippling insecurities. While Mrs. Ramsay continues daily to try to share an emotional connection with her husband, Mr. Ramsay simply thinks of her in a disparaging way. This shows the root of their marital problems. Woolf further emphasizes the importance of reading to Mrs. Ramsay and the importance of reading his wife in a twisted way to Mr. Ramsay in the following moments between the couple, when Mr. Ramsay wants his wife to say that she loves him and she can't. She believes she has “once again triumphed (Woolf 124)” by not declaring it. Even though she can accurately signal to Mr. Ramsay that she loves him without saying it, this lack of ability to retain these three